Overcoming Myths About Men

Overcoming Myths About Men

Have you ever found yourself making the same mistake over and over simply because you didn't know any better at the time?

We're all human's from time to time we unintentionally make the occasional blunder due to a bunch of mistaken assumptions running in the back of our mind.

These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster! 

And you know what?  This isn't a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge.  However, wouldn't you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD?

This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment.

Sometimes, it just takes another pair of eyes to identify the mindsets that could drive you towards perfectly preventable mistakes.  Gain some fresh insight by going here:

How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind? 

Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them.  When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.

Thus, let's take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:

#1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women.

Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place.  Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.

This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.

You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.

She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much.  This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.

Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves.

Being 'low maintenance' in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities. 

This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn't throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.

(And I emphasize 'OCCASIONAL', as opposed to 'habitually', but anyway')

This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum.  When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don't often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.

All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.

Therefore, it's NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you're frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy's every whim'

'or even TOLERATE selfishness.

And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.

Remember, there's a difference between a cool girl that doesn't get upset over the little things'

'and the emotional SLAVE who doesn't have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of 'love'.

The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.

If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it's dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend? 

Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?

Even though we're always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self. 

The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.

If you build your universe around whether you're single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness. 

You wouldn't want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you're TOO GOOD to act like that.

Don't get me wrong ' it's WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you.  That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.

However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship.  What that means is that you'd be just as fine even if you didn't have a boyfriend at the moment.

Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you're not being treated the way you should be. 

Of course, I don't mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!

All I'm saying is that you shouldn't be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn't helping your personal growth.

Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable). 

A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don't let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.

#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed

The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.

However, this just isn't going to happen.  Even happily married couples who've been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.

This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through.  This is the love that's weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.

The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn't constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation. 

But there's no reason to panic over this fact of life.  You shouldn't be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.

Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run.  It's just that you're going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.

Don't buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years.  Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your 'little' differences are going to catch up to you.

(I've heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won't go to that extreme!)

I'll be honest with you here: you're going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you're going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later.  But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.

If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you'll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.

Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speedbumps in the future.

Of course, I'm not saying you shouldn't enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right? 

You just have to be aware that things will change eventually.  However, you can stay happy as long as you're cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.

(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)

All in all, finding happiness in a man's arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment. 

There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times.  Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.

In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!  

For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best.  It doesn't necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!

So we can't project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems! 

The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior.  You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.

This article comes to you courtesy of meetyoursweet.com

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How to Talk To Men Conversation Tips

How to Talk To Men Conversation Tips

Everybody has sticking points, whether it's work, relationships or life in general.  But that's fine and dandy because the learning process is what makes us better women.

Perhaps you're struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might be keeping you from making the most out of your love life.  Not to worry though; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guide on how to do just THAT:

The "Get A Great Guy Guide" is just the thing you need to achieve the breakthrough that you've been waiting for.  With its sensible, no-nonsense and down-to-earth advice for the sassy, modern girl, finding AND holding on to a quality man will be a cinch!

Now then - one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in a woman's life is a simple lack of conversational know-now.  The good news is that this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life!

Especially while you're face-to-face with a potential lover!

Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook the importance of having the right communication style.  It's not that they WANT to be boring; they're merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.

No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, "I wonder how I'm gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger I'm going run into at the coffee shop today?"

If you want to become a better conversationalist, it's important to consider if you've grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actually counterproductive.  Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if you've fallen into certain habits which you've numbed yourself to over time.

So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS.  Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and ask yourself if your style could use some polishing.

Of course, I don't want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that the way you talk to men isn't as attractive as you might want it to be.  Like I said earlier, there's always room for improvement, and it's definitely a good thing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.

With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use to enhance your communication style:

# 1: Rapport is Key

It may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lots of perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this.
It's mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, so naturally you can't create something you can't really put a pin on!

So let's clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly.  In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.

You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer, and they suddenly have this mutual understanding?  It's kind of like that, but on a DEEPER level.

Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with all manner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are you likely to REALLY fall for?

Since they're all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hard time figuring out which guy suits you.  Chances are the one who naturally understands you will be the man you'd want to date.

Why is that?  Well, doesn't it feel just GREAT when a person instinctively senses where you're coming from? 

I'm sure you've met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feel drawn to.  That's because that person seems to perfectly understand and echo back your own opinions or feelings.

That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about.  Fortunately, it's actually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the 'same page' as the person you're talking to.  There are easy ways to do this.

For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that are personally close to the person you're in a conversation with.  If he brings up that it's important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store that away for future reference.

Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOU like to spend your alone time:  'At the end of the day I like to spend an hour or so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea.  It really helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?'

Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree!  By taking something close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way, your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.

So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same 'language'.  Now of course, I don't mean you have to start mimicking everything he's saying like a little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.

Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is a way to speak the same language. 
When you think about it, we often adapt our modes of speech depending on the context we're in. 

For example, you wouldn't talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or elders in the same EXACT way would you?

So don't think that you're being a phony by making an effort to speak in the same way that he does.  You're simply getting into the practice of communicating in a way that's APPROPRIATE to the situation. 

And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds is best done through rapport-building speech patterns!

# 2: Switch Off Your Brain

Don't get me wrong, the kinds of guys who are worth your time are into women of SUBSTANCE.  And certainly, this next conversational tip is not about acting air-headed or ditzy.

All I'm advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive!  A common mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too much about certain things.

They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that they'll come off as aloof or distracted, when in reality they're just petrified from FEAR of not knowing what to say next.

If you don't want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quiet your thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty little noggin.

The attraction-killing thoughts I'm talking about are those coming from the inner critic trying to sabotage your conversation.  Sometimes, we make the mistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt out of place or unfunny.

Other times, we're lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or get bogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness.

When you feel your brain going in this direction, acknowledge what's going on and DROP these mental distractions.

There's a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off to la-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what he might be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.

It's a girl's best defense against looking aloof or detached from the conversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!).  So remember to shut off this part of your brain, and you'll do just fine.

On another note however, sometimes it's the guy you're talking to that's feeling self-conscious.  If that's the case, then don't act or talk in any way that might give away you're AWARE of it.

Just play it cool and don't dwell on the vibe he's giving off.  It'll only make things more awkward if you let his state affect your own.

# 3: Humor is Your Best Friend

Maybe you're still feeling each other out and you're trying to get a handle on how to connect to this hunk of a guy.  But the awkward flow of your conversation is creating a major interference in your connection so you're having a hard time 'broadcasting' your signal.

Fear not, friend!  The quickest way to clear up all that 'static' is by creating a private joke which you can share with him.  When you both have some knee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-building process.

My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point.  He says:

"One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of health merchandise.  During one assignment I was talking with this guy who was telling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reduces muscular fatigue.  I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tense my arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, was visibly chuckling at how funny I looked during the product demo (though she tried her best to hide it)."

Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when he started chatting up Monqiue.  To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.

To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when they eventually started dating.  The moral of the story here is that when used properly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.

Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter.  One way to bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high by cracking a joke or making a witty comment! 

Making people laugh will make people (cute guys included) want to be around you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.

Of course, there's a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKING one.  However, appearing to be effortless at humor isn't as hard as you might think.

Don't assume you need to transform yourself into a standup comic at the drop of a hat.

Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the joke beforehand.  If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, it means you didn't build enough suspense first.

(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke by explaining too much and adding a "get it, get it?" at the end.)

A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face and suppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him.  Otherwise there won't be any escalation. 

That's what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and then BAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!

Notice how comedians like Conan O'Brien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies.  They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then making a zany comment about it (the payoff).

As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate or confuse the person you're talking to.  It's good to be mindful of the particular person in front of you so he can better relate to your "material".

However, don't worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular area of conversation.  Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into your speech. 

Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guy's funny bone, you'll notice how easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke!

One last way to be funny without overdoing it is by doing the "pretend seriousness" routine.  A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!

Let's pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy who happens to be just into music as you are.  So halfway through the conversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band you absolutely adore.

Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, "Tell me you're kidding.  Otherwise, I'm gonna have to drag you to my place and make you listen to my (name of band) records until you see the light.  Seriously!"

Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems like the guy who's game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!

#4: Converse With an OPEN Ear

Some women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearing what the other person is telling them.  Truth is, this basic skill we've been taught to use over the years is often taken for granted.

Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when we should be PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb.  A typical mistake is to listen on a superficial level and merely use the time the guy is talking to think of something to say.

This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share: you'd have a better chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to what the other person just said.

I've told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is a very powerful tool for conversational success!  Really listening to his jokes and stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good about himself.

And what red-blooded man wouldn't want to be around a sassy girl that he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?

The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANY sort of conversation you're in.  Although our general interest here is to attract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picture here.

An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation with just about anybody.  When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest of humankind, it's an indication of how you'd be on a date.

...or as a girlfriend.

If you're there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of their company... and NOT because you want their approval... then that sincerity will naturally show. 

People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang out with them with NO strings attached. 

So what I'm saying here is that you shouldn't just limit your awesome conversational skills to men alone.  Find an opportunity to flex your social muscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!

It doesn't matter if it's the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier at your favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class.  Every person out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.

Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeous in the long run!  What have you got to lose after all? 

And part of developing the right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating, courtesy of Meet Your Sweet's "Get a Great Guy Guide."

When you think about it, the cost of failure is pretty much ZERO, so get out there and work it!

This article comes to you courtesy of meetyoursweet.com

If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet's "Get a Great Guy Guide."

If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.

Click here to Get a Great Guy Guide.

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8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love

 “If you love someone but rarely make yourself available to him or her, that is not true love.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh

Guys don’t always say what they mean, whether it’s unintentional or not.

Sometimes, it’s a case of miscommunication where a man has trouble expressing himself, and you get the wrong message.

For instance, he could be fresh out of a relationship and didn’t know what he was getting into when started going out with you.

He might have thought at first that he was ready to commit, but somewhere down the line he realized that he couldn’t give you what you wanted.

And as he’s working out his feelings, he’ll give you what’s usually known as “mixed signals”.

Then there are times when he knows exactly what he wants, and will do anything to get it…
…even if it means lying to your face.

He’ll charm you into bed, then split the scene once he’s gotten what he wanted.

Either way, it’s NOT the kind of love you’re after.

So how do you know if he’s not feeling “all that” about being with you, whatever reason it may be?

And how do you spot signs of true love so you don’t waste your time on the WRONG guy?

Personally, I don’t believe in any of that mixed signals business. No matter what he says, it’s always his actions and behavior that tell the real story.

Witt that, here are the 8 biggest signs to help you know whether he feels a deep, heartfelt love for you…

…or he’s just taking you for a ride.

Bear in mind that you can spot these telltale clues in any guy, regardless of how long you’ve known him. These traits manifest on a deeper level for long-term relationships, and you’ll see early indications for a newer guy.

At any rate, you’d best find out as soon as possible – here we go…

Sign of True Love #1: You’re connected to him

You might hear some couples talking about the strong connection they have. They seem to know what the other is thinking, or even finish each other’s sentences.

It’s borderline psychic, and they swear there’s something supernatural going on.

But the real reason couples like them are so in tune is because they pay attention to each other.

There’s nothing complicated about it – they basically cultivate the habit of responding when one of them is trying to make a connection.

For example, you might say to your partner while you’re walking down the street, “Hey honey, check out that Prius with the Hello Kitty decals…I can’t decide if it’s cute or trashy!”

If he just ignores you or shrugs with an apathetic, “Hmm”, then the connection between you might not be as strong as you think.

But if he says something like, “Yeah, definitely trashy… that car’s perfect for you!” with a cheeky grin, then it means he’s really paying attention to you.

And it’s not just about pointing out something interesting to your partner. It can be more subtle, like bringing up a story and seeing how the other reacts, getting a quick opinion on your outfit, or asking for help with the laundry.

These are “small” ways couples try to connect with each other, and it takes practice for couples to get into this groove. You’ll see those who’ve been together for some time are naturally good at this.

On the other hand, a superficial kind of love doesn’t make the effort to make these little connections.

If a guy continuously brushes off your attempts to connect (and not because he just happens to be having a bad day), then he might not be that into the relationship as you think.

Sign of True Love #2: It’s all about clarity

When a guy isn’t really in love, it’s not really important to him whether he’s sending a clear message or not.

What do I mean by this?

Well for starters, he has the habit of letting you know at the last minute if he can’t make it or he’s running late.

And when you’re not together, it usually feels like he’s gone off the grid.

You don’t hear from him for long stretches of time, and he won’t bother to let you know what’s going on with him.

Even if he seems like the most charming, fun and sweet guy when you are together - especially in bed…

…he probably isn’t that committed if his actions outside of that are ambiguous.

True love is the opposite of that, which means he’ll leave no room for you to wonder if he’s going to flake out on you or not.

He’s going to make sure that the way he communicates with you is absolutely clear and “on the level”.

True Love Sign #3: He actually cares about being TOGETHER

With a relationship purely based on lust, there’s little to no effort involved when it comes to doing things that bring a couple closer.

There’s that “I’ll see you when I see you” kind of vibe, and you don’t feel any sort of GROWTH between you.

A man who’s in love is going to make sure he gets to spend time with you, even if he has to rearrange his whole schedule.

And it’s a sure sign he’s super serious if these are ritual type of activities, and not just getting busy between the sheets.

When a guy’s creating shared experiences, he’s also interested in forming a richer, DEEPER connection with you.

It’s not always about going on a weekend getaway or bungee jumping…

…but rather smaller things like huddling together for a weekend Netflix marathon or a Wednesday brunch.

Real love isn’t always focused on chasing the “high” that comes with romance, but also creating a stable routine that forms the foundation of your relationship.

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True Love Sign #4: He’s not afraid to push your limits

Couples who truly care for each other aren’t worried about being likeable or agreeable all the time.

If they have a difference of opinion, they can handle the fact that they don’t see eye-to-eye on it - especially when it comes to “dealbreaker” kind of topics.

More importantly, they can give their HONEST thoughts on the matter, even if it’s the polar opposite of what the other person believes.

Someone who’s more interested in a one-shot kind of deal (rather than being in it for the long run) isn’t going to risk rocking the boat.

He’ll be in politician mode, saying and doing everything to keep the good times rolling.

He’s thinking, “What’s the point of being honest about it if it’s going to piss her off?”

But a man in love isn’t as worried about the ups and downs, or the disagreements…

…because he’s more interested in knowing the REAL you…

…even if it means having to iron out the kinks.

He knows it’s a messy process, but he doesn’t mind.

Amanda, a friend of mine was telling me about her husband, Donnie:

“You know, at first I thought he was kind of a jerk for being so straight up with me. But he always respected me even though we disagreed on something.”

Then she added, “And if I messed up in some way, he called me out on it without making me feel bad. I’d get mad at Donnie before, but now I respect him for not just telling me what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to.”

True Love Sign #5: He meets you halfway…or MORE than that

We all know relationships are about give and take, but a guy in love is way more interested in GIVING than taking.

And when he gives, you’re 100% sure there’s no strings attached. He does it because he wants to, and it doesn’t matter how much he gets back in return.

Real love doesn’t keep score, so your guy isn’t going to bring up the time he waited half an hour because you had a last-minute emergency at work, or that he had to cancel poker night with the guys to see you.

Superficial relationships usually have self-serving agendas (i.e. sex, money, bragging rights).

When a guy is more concerned about having the favor returned, you’ll feel it …

…even if he doesn’t say something like, “I did this for you, now what are you going to do for me?”

Furthermore, a guy who isn’t really in love tends to be more selfish about his preferences.

He’ll likely insist on the stuff he likes rather than asking what you want.

It could be small stuff like where to eat, which movie to watch, or if you prefer the window or aisle seat on the plane.

It could also be things on a larger scale, like deciding where the relationship’s headed.

Fickle (a.k.a. Fake) love doesn’t really do well with making room for compromise, and couples are likely to split over this.

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True Love Sign #6: Your guy has “tunnel vision”

You can tell a guy’s in love with you if he’s trying to imply that you’re “different” from other women.

He’ll make you feel special - it’s as if you’re the only one that exists in his world.

Men interested in a serious, committed relationship are looking for that one girl who stands above the rest.

And if he thinks you’re The One, he WILL drop some hints to let you know.

Chances are he’ll be indirect about it because men often have trouble expressing themselves emotionally.

Feelings aren’t as familiar territory to them as it is for women (although there are exceptions of course).

That’s why it’s a bit of a challenge for him to untangle something as complex as LOVE.

So he’ll try to let you know by saying something along the lines of “You’re not like other women” or “I’ve never met anyone like you.”
Someone who doesn’t feel as strongly for you won’t ever approach this topic.

That’s because he’s not as focused - or I might even say “obsessed” – with you.

True Love Sign #7: He’s always there for you

Most women have a little trouble figuring this one out.

But if you pay attention to his actions, there may be clues that he’s not just in it for the physical intimacy.

If he’s constantly doing big AND small stuff for you, it’s his way of letting you know about this true feelings.

A lot of guys are more of doers than tellers when it comes to love.

Also, chances are it’s the real deal if he’s taking note of the small details about you and putting them to good use later on.

Maybe he knows how much you’re into badly made horror movies, for instance.

Then he’ll surprise you with a couple of tickets for a midnight screening of that cult classic you were telling him about the other week.
All this means your happiness is important to him…

…and any guy worth being with doesn’t feel 100% like a man if he’s not doing enough to take care of you.

A guy who doesn’t care, won’t bother remembering those vital pieces of information. And he won’t lift a finger to make you happy unless it benefits him in some way.

True Love Sign #8: He’s part of your life – and not just the fun parts

Another way to tell he’s in love with you if he’s going out of his way to be part of your world.

You might notice him trying to find out what you love doing, then tag along even though he’s not into it himself.

He’ll also be more than happy to meet the other people in your life because he wants to know you better.

Being with your friends and seeing you in action helps him understand what makes you tick.

A guy who’s only interested in doing the deed won’t be interested at all in seeing this other side of you.

It doesn’t serve him in any way, and he doesn’t need to take the relationship past sleeping with you.

Fake love crumbles when things get tough. He won’t muster the energy to get to know your passions and interests, and doesn’t care about the people important to you.

Doing this takes time and effort. Whether or not he goes through this trouble is the real yardstick of his feelings for you.

If he’s willing to make sacrifices that he could have very well avoided…

…and he doesn’t stop trying even when things aren’t always great between you…

…then you’d better hold on to him tight.

This points to the fact that he’s tenacious in the face of adversity, which is more than I can say for the Wham-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am kind of guys out there.

Whether you’ve just been seeing a guy, or you’ve known him for a long time, it’s never a good sign if it just seems like he’s phoning it in.

Maybe he used to show the signs that he’s got a solid commitment to you, but now you’re not so sure about your future with him.

It’s often hard to pinpoint exactly why men pull away all of a sudden.

But you don’t have to panic if your relationship’s going through this phase. There is a way to overcome the wall that men put up when they don’t feel that fire anymore.

What you need to do is understand how men think and get a good grasp of what makes them leave.

This video explains how to get around the problem of his emotional unavailability, and to make sure he doesn’t ever think of leaving.

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The 4 Traits Women Have That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

 

The 4 Traits Women Have That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

“Falling in love is easy. Falling in love with the same person repeatedly is extraordinary.”
- Crystal Woods

Aspasia was a famous woman in Greek history who lived during the 5^th century.

She wasn’t just known for her knock-out looks, but also for her beautiful mind and razor-sharp wit.
More than that, her life gives us a look into how women of ancient Greece used to roll back in the day.

Originally hailing from Miletus (now known as Turkey), she came to Athens and became a courtesan to influential figures like Pericles, a well-known figure at the time.

Soon enough, Aspasia made a name for herself as she got to know the crème de la crème of Greek society.

Politicians, philosophers, high-rollers - and of course, love struck men - naturally gravitated towards her.

Few could resist Aspasia’s beauty and her legendary talent for thought-provoking conversation.

In fact, no less than Plato mentioned her on more than one occasion in his writings. Some scholars even argued that he based one of his fictional characters on Aspasia.

Fast forward to more than a thousand years later, and people are still talking about her.

You don’t get to have that kind of historical impact without wielding some serious mojo.

The natural ability to attract men is so powerful because it goes past culture, beliefs or values.

It’s almost an unfair advantage, really.

Having the RIGHT TRAITS basically gives you the power to tap into a guy’s mind…
…and flip his subconscious switches that tell him how ridiculously attractive you are.
And here’s the thing: those switches have been there since time began.

They’re in the same category of switches that tell a guy when to eat, sleep, fight, or flee.
In other words, it’s PRIMAL.

Once you trigger those instincts, he’s powerless from feeling overwhelmingly attracted to you.
These attraction signals transcend history and have stood the test of time.
But enough talk – let’s get down to it…

Here are The Top 4 Traits That Make Him Love You (Again and Again):

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#1: Be Classy, Not Trashy

When it comes to instincts, it’s not just about foraging for food or fighting off wild animals.
Part of our brain is also designed to perceive status - and sexual attraction overlaps a great deal with that.

This goes back to ancient times, and being part of a group conveyed a certain status.
So someone who possessed more “social currency” than others had elated a specific psychological response.

It’s not just about having actual money, mind you - although it did have a little bit to do with that.
Higher status also involved other subliminal cues, like hygiene, intelligence, emotional maturity and so on.

These were signals that told men that she was an Alpha Female, so to speak.

Aspasia carried herself with grace, eloquence and dignity. She wasn’t born into nobility, but she came out on top anyway because of these collective traits.

Even though she had her share of haters back then, she let criticism roll off like water on feathers.

Women also size up potential partners in the same way, too.

Masculine traits such as strength, sense of direction and protectiveness appeal to women on a primal level.

This also harkens back to the days of tribal societies. Women traditionally had to depend on the father figure to keep them safe from immediate threats like starvation or bandits.

Obviously, a LOT has changed since then, and that model doesn’t really apply anymore.

But our evolutionary brains tell us otherwise. Deep inside, a part of us still need to check off that list before we can give someone the green light.

That said, if you can cultivate a personality built on feminine strength, flirty playfulness and a good old dose of classy…

…then you’d be hard-pressed not to have a bunch of guys fighting over you.

#2: Let him see the REAL you

It’s not easy to let a guy see your softer, more sensitive side. It might feel like opening a can of worms when you’re with someone you don’t really know that well yet.

But part of connecting with a man on a deeper level involves sharing things that you wouldn’t tell anyone else.

And of course, I’m not saying you should launch right into your life story on the first date and bare your soul right then and there.

(Believe me, that’s the kind of stuff that’ll make him excuse himself to the bathroom…then climb out the window.)

What I mean is that when you’re trying to develop an emotional bond with a guy, you can slowly reveal the deeper layers that make up who you are.

Over time, you can gradually share your greatest fears, the people you looked up to as a kid, or the kind of life you want a decade from now.

If you feel that he’s met you halfway…

…and more importantly, EARNED the right to see that side of you…

…then don’t be afraid to open up to him.

Time it right, and he’ll be incredibly honored that you gave him that privilege.

If anything, men badly want to be accepted too, and by making the first move to put yourself out there, he’ll want to reciprocate and open himself up to you as well.

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#3: Let Him Bask In Your Femininity

When you hear the word “feminine”, you might be thinking of qualities like wearing floral dresses, speaking in a high-pitched voice, gushing about last night’s episode of “The Real Housewives of New York City” or acting…“girly.”

But the real essence of this trait goes beyond the superficial or stereotypical.    

Being a woman in a man’s eyes is having a nuanced combination of qualities.

We’ve already covered the importance of being emotionally open in the last point, but there are a couple of others you need to know.

For instance, let’s backtrack a little bit to what I said about a man’s protective instincts.

Nowadays, your typical guy isn’t really concerned about keeping a lion from mauling his wife and offspring, but that mindset still exists in a different form.

Men still take pleasure in being able to take care of his loved ones. He derives a sense of accomplishment from that, and it’s even tied to his core masculinity.

So if you complement that with your own feminine need to have a guy “take care of you”, he’ll be more than happy to fill that role.

I’m telling you this while being well aware that you don’t need a man to carry you through life.

But I’m also saying this: if you give him the privilege to let him do it anyway…

…it will encourage him to do the things a guy does for his partner.

And of course, this is ALL in the context of a healthy, emotionally balanced relationship.

And I’m pretty sure that’s what you want.

Here’s another feminine quality: be attuned to his needs, and nurture his spirit.

I can already hear some women going, “What about me? I’ve got my own needs…and I’m not about to babysit some man-child with mommy issues!”

But hear me out.

Again, if you want a balanced, functional relationship (as you should), you have to understand what guys want in a partner.

Many men are achievement-driven and results-oriented go-getters in their lives.

From a guy’s point of view, his manliness is on the line whenever he’s out there in the big, bad, world.

So at the end of the day, he wants nothing more than a loving partner who’s got his back.

He needs a woman that can help him untangle that yarn ball of emotions that he himself doesn’t always understand.

And most of all, he years for a woman who’ll ACCEPT him, shortcomings and all.

If you can bring your feminine energy into the equation and heal him this way, you’ll have a devoted partner FOR LIFE.

Now, there are other feminine qualities that attract men of course, but these two tend to be on the top of a man’s list.

Moving on to the last and biggest one… 

#4: Don’t let him have “ALL” of you

I used to have a pet cat named Arlene (bless her furry little soul), and she had a toy mouse that would squeak once she “killed it.”

The funny thing was that she quickly lost interest after she did this a few times.

In her mind, she’d already satisfied her hunting instinct, so her mouse didn’t have quite have that novelty anymore.

In the same way, men have fun pursuing their partner. This is his caveman brain engaging in a social game, endlessly wanting to “dominate” his prey.

I know that might not exactly sound romantic at first, but don’t take this literally.

This is a symbolical need that men have, and it manifests itself in different ways.

For example, ever notice the way a guy gets more and more turned on when you give him “a hard time”?

You can do this in a bunch of situations, like say, giving him a little trash talk after winning at a video game or Monopoly…

… heavily flirting with him at a very public place…

…having little inside jokes between you…

…or having a humorous conversation about the stuff you don’t agree on.

These are all little ways men “test” their partner.

In his mind, he’s wondering about things like:

• “Is she gonna be cool with me hanging out with the guys on the weekends? Or is she going to call every 15 minutes asking me where I am?”
• “Boy, I hope she thinks my board game collection isn’t weird or anything.”
• “Is it going to work if I’m vegan and she likes her steaks medium rare?”
• “She’s not going to freak out when I have to work late nights once a week, will she?”
• “She said she’s ‘not looking for anything serious’…how am I gonna change her mind??”

So he’ll try to find out by “playing” with you and see what other parts of your personality emerge.

But more importantly, he lives for the title of being The One who “caught” you.

From time to time, you can make him feel this by validating his feelings and giving him affection.

But don’t overdo it and smother him with your attention all the time.

For the most part, let HIM do the chasing.

Here’s another way to make him pursue you: have a life of your own outside of the relationship.

Get your own thing going and spend time on the other areas of your life that keep you happy and satisfied.

This reminds him that sometimes, you’re a little bit out of reach, which is how it should be.

He’ll pursue you with a passion and find ways to win you over, again and again.

There are some cases though where a guy isn’t as on-board as you’d like. And as cute as he is, you kinda want to whack him on the head for being so dense.

You might be even feeling a little helpless.

He’s pulling away from you even after you’ve pulled out all the stops and tried every trick in the book.

Well, I’m telling you right now that you haven’t tried them all.

Here’s an eye-opening free presentation that gives you the REAL DEAL on why men leave, and what makes them stay.

Fair warning: some of this stuff won’t necessarily be pleasant to hear.

But if you’re interested in the truth about how men think – and how to keep him from walking out…

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How To Make A Man Fall Madly In Love With You

How To Make A Man Fall Madly In Love With You

10 Tips For Making Men Desire You More
"Be the flame, not the moth." - Giacomo Casanova

We all want to be loved.

It's a human need - we yearn for that magical connection with The One Person meant for each of us.

You might be on the lookout for that guy right now, just as he's searching for someone like you.

Or maybe you're already in a relationship and you want to keep the flames of passion burning ferociously bright with your man.

Either way, you'd do well to learn the secrets to turning him on like crazy.

If you can make him feel things he's never felt with any other woman before, then he's as good as YOURS.

Meet Tina

She was like most women who stumbled in the dark when it came to men and dating.

Tina, a real estate agent from Surrey, had trouble keeping a guy around.

Either he "needed space", wasn't "ready commit to something long-term" or had some equally lame excuse available.

So she jumped from one relationship to the next and fell into the same patterns over and over.

After a few weeks of getting hot and heavy, the guy was soon out the door...

...and into another woman's arms.

Her latest one was a colleague named Jeff - and like the others, things crashed and burned before it could even get off the ground.

They had a few dates and seemed to have fun (especially in bed!), but it soon fizzled out like the others.

Jeff suddenly became unavailable, dodged Tina's calls and messages...until he was out of the picture just like that.

After her last disappointment, Tina started to get desperate. She began to think there was something seriously wrong with her.

"My last REAL relationship was almost a decade ago, and I've gotten nothing but duds ever since. Maybe I pissed off the dating gods or something to deserve my rotten luck with men!"

However, Tina is anything but an isolated case. I've met - and helped - lots of women in the same boat as her.

And today, I'm going to let you in on the 10 Incredibly Effective Ways to Capture Your Guy's Heart Forever:

#1: Please his eyes

When I tell you that you need to be physically attractive to capture his interest, that doesn't means guys are shallow.

This is what I call "getting your foot in the door."

Sure, women might not prioritize looks as much as guys do.

But you can't deny that a man ALSO needs to be visually appealing on some level before feeling attracted to him.

That's not right or wrong - it's simply biology in action.

To flip those hardwired switches in him, you'll need to put in the work.

Take note that has nothing to do with being "perfect", because that's a relative concept. Every guy has a "type" and there's no ONE kind of woman that ALL men are into.

That means you WILL click with someone, one way or another.

All you need to do is take care of yourself, which is what you should be doing anyway regardless.

I could write a whole book about looking and feeling your best, but here's a quick checklist to go over for now:

• First things first: paying attention to hygiene is non-negotiable, and so is staying fit and active. Grooming is a must, so don't neglect the basic things either. Guys need to know you care about this stuff before seeing you as a potential partner.
• Flaunt your feminine side: experiment with different scents, keep your skin smooth and soft with lotions and use makeup when necessary (tip: less is more!).
• Have an impeccable sense of style: The right packaging sends the right signals to his caveman brain, so keep your clothes neat and pressed. Also, choose soft fabrics that accentuate your curves - they have a soothing appeal that'll drive him crazy with desire!

#2: Create killer chemistry

To establish a strong connection with a guy (or strengthen it with a long-term partner), he needs to feel that he has a lot of common ground with you.

Does your personality and attitude give him the impression that he can open himself up to you?

And he can have conversations with you that seem to go on forever (but don't feel that way)?

Does he feel like you "get" him on a level that's deeper than anyone else he's met?

Does your sense of humor jive with his, and do you laugh at the same dumb jokes?

Do you have a burning curiosity for each other? Does he want to pick your brain and know what makes you tick - and likewise for you?

If your personality and attitude can create that type of climate in the relationship, then you're doing it right.

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#3: Get him to trust you

A lot of women think that getting emotionally close with a guy is as easy as sleeping with him. But jumping into bed isn't going to do the trick.

If he wasn't sure about how he felt for you BEFORE doing the deed...

...he'll feel all the more uncertain the morning after.

If you want to create an unshakable bond with your man, the first step is ACCEPTING him.

This is HUGE on a guy's list - it might even be higher than sex, if not just as important.

A man wants to feel that their partner accepts them as who he is - NOT what she wants him to be.

Women don't realize they do this in small ways, like giving him the raised eyebrow when it comes to the way he dresses.

A few helpful suggestions are fine, but don't go nuts and turn him into your personal makeover guinea pig.

The same goes for the stuff he's into or the people he hangs out with. If it's not getting in the way of your relationship, it's not worth butting heads with him over it.

#4: Be his wing(wo)man

If you want him to see you as a partner and not just a one-time fling, you need to live up to the title.

And to do that, he'll need your SUPPORT.

If he's going through a hellish time in his career or has stuff of his own to sort out, he'll need to know you've got his back.

Men tend to withdraw a bit emotionally when they're fighting some battle in their life, so don't take it personally.

He's just going into a one-track-mind mode so he can focus his energy on whatever he needs to deal with at the moment.

In the meantime, you can quietly assure him that you'll be there for him. He'll come back around after he wrestles those pesky problems into submission.

#5: Pull back

When a guy's crazy about you, the best thing to do is make yourself scarce - but just a little bit.

I'm not telling you to play the hard-to-get game where you're blowing him off on purpose just to see him squirm.

That's manipulation - and let me tell you, guys are NOT thrilled by that at all.

I'm just asking you not to "spoil" him too much and overindulge in the relationship.

Otherwise, it could throw off the balance in both your lives.

So where do you draw the line when it comes to pulling back?

An easy way to do this is by asking yourself, "Am I sacrificing my own growth, well-being or sense of individuality by hanging out too much with him?"

If your other priorities are out of whack - like your career, health or social life - then it's time to rein yourself in a bit.

Let him miss you a little and get busy being the AWESOME woman that you are.

He'd rather have someone who isn't available at his beck and call 24/7...

...as opposed to a clingy, lovesick puppy who lives and breathes for his approval.

#6: Inspire him to action

One thing that turns on a guy is the feeling of being NEEDED.

You might be thinking, "What?? Didn't you just tell me to be a strong, independent woman who doesn't need a guy to be happy?"

Well yes, but the operative word here is "feeling".

Any guy worth your time knows darn well that you don't actually NEED him to live a full life.

He just wants the privilege of being part of it anyway.

And if you let him play the game where he gets to indulge his more brutish, masculine side, he'll love you for it.

Ask him to help you out with "guy stuff", like moving some heavy stuff around, fixing something in the house, setting up your new computer or killing that bug that flew in your bathroom.

Or you could ask him for his expertise on something, like which smart TV has true 1080p resolution or how to invest in Bitcoin...you get the idea.

Men absolutely love knowing they can do this type of thing for their partner because that's their "provider/protector instinct" kicking in.

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#7: Let him do his thing

The couples who've been together the longest are those who understand that they can't be together every second of the day.

This goes beyond what I said earlier about pulling back a little.

From time to time, he's going to want to go off and express himself...

...and it won't involve you.

Women who are, well, less mature, will have a hard time accepting this fact about men.

But that's exactly what you need to respect, which is his need for individuality and independence.

This factor alone can be a dealbreaker for most guys because they're secretly afraid they'll have to give those up once he commits to a woman.

So alleviate those fears and let him have his friends, hobbies and other side projects he's working on.

#8: Take a chill pill

Another thing that guys are worried about is that their partner's going to freak out when he cracks the occasional inappropriate joke or takes an off-day playing Grand Theft Auto on his PS4.

Essentially, guys are looking for that girl who won't suck all the fun out of the relationship with her drama.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's what guys are thinking - they just don't have the nerve to tell you.

You can do this by keeping it cool when something unexpected happens, like canceled dinner plans on account of an emergency.

Or it could also mean not having unspoken, arbitrary rules in the relationship that force him to walk on eggshells around you.

You know, like not flipping out when he likes a female friend's Facebook post or Instragram selfie - or on a bigger note, acknowledging the existence of other women in his life.

If you can pick your battles and let the inconsequential stuff slide, he'll be all the happier for it.

#9: Don't MAKE him fall in love with you

This may come as a surprise to a lot of women, but you can't actually tell a guy what to think or feel...

...especially when it comes to deciding whether to commit to someone or not.

Men won't be MORE compelled to stick around if he feels FORCED into it.

Pressure is never attractive. He needs to have the freedom to CHOOSE instead of feeling like he owes it to you.

This is critical in the beginning when he's still feeling things out. Try to avoid using labels like "exclusive", "girlfriend" or "committed" until you've mutually confirmed it.

And more importantly, you shouldn't punish him in some way if he's not as "on-board" as you are.

Part of being in a relationship is stepping aside and letting it happen organically.

If you try to create that closeness by sleeping with him or give him an ultimatum, he'll eventually bail out on you since it wasn't his real decision anyway.

#10: Amazing Sex (need I say more?)

You didn't think we'd skip this one, did you?

Assuming that you've bonded with him enough and the connection is there, the sexual component of your relationship is VITAL.

Without it, you might as well be platonic friends. With that, here are some essential tips you need to know:

• Make him feel like a MAN...or THE Man, to be exact. Again, this is his caveman side we're talking about. Guys want nothing more than to please their partner - especially when it comes to that - which brings us to the next tip...
• If he's doing it right, TELL him. If your guy's lighting you up like a Christmas tree, give him the signals. Your verbal and non-verbal cues will tell him you're on bliss island. You could even slip a little R-rated language while you're in throes of passion if you're so inclined...
• Communication is KEY. We're approaching clichéd territory here, but it's crucial nonetheless. Maybe you've hit a roadblock in your sex life for whatever reason and it's keeping you from giving 100% of yourself to him. If that's the case, he deserves to know, but try to skip the harsh criticism and accusations. Trust me, if there's anything he can do to help things get back on track, he'll be more than willing.
• Use the power of the "slow burn". Men love being teased as long as they know it'll lead up to the main event. Make a game out of it and don't go for the obvious erogenous zones, like down south. Bring things to a simmering boil by touching him elsewhere that's just as powerful and erotic. Or send him a quick text about what you're going to do to him later on. Anything you that builds up the anticipation will keep him eager and willing to please you.
  
  

Whether you've been together for three months or three decades, there's always plenty you can do to make him crave you like a cool drink on a hot summer day. With the right habits, you can easily cultivate the right atmosphere in your relationship.

But there are women out there whose guy is slipping away FAST - and they need to stop him from walking out the door, pronto.

In cases like that, you'll need to bring out the big guns.

You see, I've developed a system to keep a man not only interested and attracted to you...

...but make him feel like living without you is NOT an option.

After using my powerful techniques on him, he won't see any other women aside from you.

(And while he's at it, he'll stop looking at their Facebook and Instagram feeds without you asking him - just saying...)

In other words, I can teach you how to make him OBSESSED with you so the thought of leaving won't ever cross his mind.

But let me warn you that this is powerful stuff and you should only use it on the right guy.

You need to be sure that you NEVER want him to leave you.

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How To Make A Man Fall Madly In Love With You - 10 Tips For Making Men Desire You More by Slade Shaw; Author of Why Men Pull Away. 


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5 Signs He Is The Right Man For You

5 Signs He Is The Right Man For You

"You don't love someone because of their looks or their clothes or their car. You love them because they sing a song only your heart can understand." - L.J. Smith

Tessa, a tech support specialist from Melbourne in her late twenties, has an active social life.

She often goes to sci-fi conventions, regularly holds video game marathons at her place and meets a lot of people who share the same interests - including guys.

As it was, Tessa had been single for some time and was hoping to find a partner who could complement her personality. And even though she had a lot in common with the guys in her social circles, she couldn't quite hit it off romantically with any of them.

So it was a complete surprise when Ben came along and swept Tessa off her feet.

"He's super active in the local sports scene and is very athletic, so he wasn't my type at all...or so I thought," Tessa shared with a girlish smile.

They met by chance at a charity auction set up by mutual friends, and they clicked the moment they met.

"I couldn't put my finger on it at first, but I knew right away he was different, and in a good way," she gushed.

"He wasn't like any other guy I've met, and I don't think it had anything to do with our interests. Ben has this energy and warmth about him that I absolutely LOVE."

How to spot The One

Their worlds were pretty far removed from each other, but that didn't stop Tessa from falling hard for Ben.

It's surprising how couples who seem like polar opposites at first turn out to be a perfect fit.

And most of the time, it can be a tricky business to figure out if a certain guy is a good match for you.

Considering his unique personality and quirks - along with the whole deal about mixed signals - it's hard to sift through all of that and see the signs he's MEANT for you.

So how can you tell he's your Mr. Right...or if you should keep looking?

Read on to find out...

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Sign #1: He's got your back

One thing I've noticed in a lot of couples who've been together for years is how supportive they are of each other.

It's always a good sign when a guy endlessly encourages his partner to pursue her interests and passions - no matter how "out there" they might seem.

If you see that your guy is always trying to push you forward in a HEALTHY direction - especially when you doubt yourself - that's a clear indication he's a good match for you.

When looking for a partner, it's important to find someone who wants to see you GROW and evolve. A guy who acts as a positive force in your life is worth keeping around.

Sign #2: He's part of your world

Like Tessa learned, hitting it off doesn't have much to do with how similar your personalities or interests are.

Sure, having stuff in common makes it easier to break the ice, but in the long run it's not going to keep the relationship going.

The more important factor is how willing he is to be part of your life anyway.

Tessa recalled fondly: "Ben didn't know the first thing about Star Wars, or sci-fi movies in general, but he went with me to the midnight screening of The Force Awakens with my geek friends...and we even wore matching Jedi outfits! I didn't ask Ben to do that, but he suggested the idea and I loved him for that..." If he's into you, he'll care about the things you do. He'll spend his time on them because he knows those things make you, YOU.

And that's exactly what he wants to be part of - your fun and happening life.

Sign#3: You share a special bond

You know how some couples almost seem to know what the other is thinking without saying a word?

It's amazing - and a little eerie - to see them connect at this level that no one else can.

It's not ESP or some other supernatural phenomenon - some people are empathic this way and have a kind of radar for it.

Your guy doesn't have to be psychic or have a sixth sense, nor should you expect him to be.

But if he has the awareness to at least ask you if you're ok, then that's the sign of a concerned - and CONNECTED - partner.

This is the kind of man who can sense that's there's something amiss in your inner world and respond to it.

When he picks up on your signals, he won't just ask if you're doing alright...

...he'll also want to help you get out of your funk, get the proverbial fly out of your soup...

...and basically do anything to make you right as rain again.

And the fact that he cares about what you're feeling or thinking speaks volumes of the kind of guy he is.

Sign #4: He's making the EFFORT

If a guy's important to you, he'll always be working overtime to make sure you're happy.

Men are big on making their partner feel provided for and protected, so he's going to do this in every way he can.

If he's not making plans with you and create amazing, shared experiences together...

...he'll try to help you with something that's bugging you, like your fixing your smartphone or running some errand you hate.

A guy worth keeping is one who'll do anything to take the load off your mind and make your life easier.

Another thing you might notice is how a guy will do things with you on a regular basis.

He'll take you out for morning coffee, walk your dog with you every Saturday or schedule a monthly expedition at his favorite camping spot.

If he does this, take note, because a man doesn't change his schedule that easily.

Only a guy who's in "single" mode will insist on keeping his appointments as they are.

A guy IN LOVE, on the other hand, will suddenly have all the reasons in the world to make his schedule more flexible than a contortionist at the circus.

More than that, he wants to create a shared life with you.

So it's not just what he does - it's also the amount of time he gives up and trouble he goes through in the name of your happiness.

This is one of the most precious gifts he could give anyone.

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Sign #5: He makes everything AWESOME

Even the most boring, everyday things become amazing when you're with him.

Maybe you need to run to the store to get pasta noodles or pick up a package at the post office - but you wouldn't miss it for the world if he offers to go with you.

You're so attracted to each other that everything else seems to fade into the background when you're together.

He wants to know every little you were up to today, and likewise for you.

That's what being soulmates is all about - he turns the mundane into the magical by simply being there.

And when you're having the worst of days, you STILL want him around because you know he's such a positive presence in your life.

He's there to hear you rant about the crazy drama you had with a co-worker, or some other struggle you're going through.

Whatever it is, he's all ears and isn't itching to jump in with a solution to your problems.

He'll sit back, listen quietly and only speak after you're done talking.

He'll only offer his opinion when you ask for it and always make you feel like he's hearing you out.

All of these add up to the unmistakable fact that you've found The One.

Finding this kind of connection with a man is RARE, so you should pay attention when he's showing you the right signs.

More importantly, you need to make sure that spark keeps burning bright and strong with your Mr. Right.

I've seen a lot of couples who were perfect for each other, but drift apart for one reason or another.

Maybe he's not as affectionate as he was before...

...or the passion has faded...

...or he's simply going through the motions.

Worse, it might even seem that he's pulling away.

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5 Signs He Is The Right Man For You by Slade Shaw; author of Why Men Pull Away.

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